The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Emotional & logistical problems of an open marriage(was:MFM then FMF for starters?)

LokisFemaleHalf · 08-07-2008, 08:20 AM

OK, Loki's female half here again. First and foremost, I am not talking to a serial killer. I did a thesis in college on those sorts, and my friend is not one. I am an intelligent person. I actually know how to check a person's credentials and see if they are really who they say they are, which I have done. In this case, in addition to sex talk and cyber sex, we talk about his family, his friends, girlfriends, politics, economy, all kinds of things. We are friends. Why is it odd that a young man wants an older woman? Have you ever heard of MILFs? That is what I am. I have experience, I know what I want, and I know how to fuck. Now, that being said, and not to knock the lifestyle because I am not in it, what makes a swinger so much more safe? Anyone can lie, just as anyone can be a psycho. I could walk out of my house today, get into my car, and find a sociopath in my back seat with a knife.

My point is, we appreciate your advice on the whole, but please do not judge people you do not know so harshly. I was kidnapped and raped by two men at gunpoint when I was 17 years old. If anybody has a "radar" for these things, it is me. I am working as a consultant for a start-up company, and I have had to meet men alone, in an office suite, and work on quotes for the upfit and for services. I could have been knocked off at anytime, or assaulted. The risk, to me, is the same.

So, I want to go to a very upscale hotel and spend a couple of days having a great time with a fuck-buddy. Is it risky? Well, isn't life? I find greater risk in the drive there. My husband and I have talked and worked this out. It is a fit for our sexual desires. Just because we are choosing not to start with the lifestyle does not mean we are doing anything wrong. Any single can get into a car with a first date and end up on the side of the road. Now, if this all goes haywire, you will get your satisfaction. I do not wish to offend anyone, but just because someone doesn't take your advice is not a sound reason to get snide. I truly appreciate the opinions, and respect your experiences. I will be more than glad to share mine when I am done!

08-07-2008, 08:20 AM	#26 (permalink)
LokisFemaleHalf Active Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 23 Location: NC Status: Couple	Re: Newbies: MFM, then FMF for starters? OK, Loki's female half here again. First and foremost, I am not talking to a serial killer. I did a thesis in college on those sorts, and my friend is not one. I am an intelligent person. I actually know how to check a person's credentials and see if they are really who they say they are, which I have done. In this case, in addition to sex talk and cyber sex, we talk about his family, his friends, girlfriends, politics, economy, all kinds of things. We are friends. Why is it odd that a young man wants an older woman? Have you ever heard of MILFs? That is what I am. I have experience, I know what I want, and I know how to fuck. Now, that being said, and not to knock the lifestyle because I am not in it, what makes a swinger so much more safe? Anyone can lie, just as anyone can be a psycho. I could walk out of my house today, get into my car, and find a sociopath in my back seat with a knife. My point is, we appreciate your advice on the whole, but please do not judge people you do not know so harshly. I was kidnapped and raped by two men at gunpoint when I was 17 years old. If anybody has a "radar" for these things, it is me. I am working as a consultant for a start-up company, and I have had to meet men alone, in an office suite, and work on quotes for the upfit and for services. I could have been knocked off at anytime, or assaulted. The risk, to me, is the same. So, I want to go to a very upscale hotel and spend a couple of days having a great time with a fuck-buddy. Is it risky? Well, isn't life? I find greater risk in the drive there. My husband and I have talked and worked this out. It is a fit for our sexual desires. Just because we are choosing not to start with the lifestyle does not mean we are doing anything wrong. Any single can get into a car with a first date and end up on the side of the road. Now, if this all goes haywire, you will get your satisfaction. I do not wish to offend anyone, but just because someone doesn't take your advice is not a sound reason to get snide. I truly appreciate the opinions, and respect your experiences. I will be more than glad to share mine when I am done!