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GoNatural · 08-06-2008, 02:57 PM

I've replied before, and I want to ad a little more to this thread. I'm currently single, but seeking a poly arangement. I'm more interested in loving a woman that has other lovers than I myself having more than one lover (but I'm open to loving more than one). Now, it is not easy to be a single guy and find a poly woman to spend your life with. Sure, many have done it, and it is possible, but I've noticed over the last couple of years that many poly men end up with a poly woman by having a monogamous relationship with her first, then they open up their relationship. Trust is built firs, and a history together, before such alternative things are considered, in most cases (just as in swinging).

I still want to point out that a number of men and women discover that they are poly after being in a monogamous relationship, then desiring to be in an open relationship. Two poly women that I have dated have never considered themselves a swinger, although one has been the sought after unicorn in a FFM threesome with a married couple.

It is possible that I have a scewed view, but it seems that woman have an easier time finding partners that will consider an open relationship.

08-06-2008, 02:57 PM	#44 (permalink)
GoNatural Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 201 Location: Austin, TX Status: Attatched Male	Re: What brings people to poly? I've replied before, and I want to ad a little more to this thread. I'm currently single, but seeking a poly arangement. I'm more interested in loving a woman that has other lovers than I myself having more than one lover (but I'm open to loving more than one). Now, it is not easy to be a single guy and find a poly woman to spend your life with. Sure, many have done it, and it is possible, but I've noticed over the last couple of years that many poly men end up with a poly woman by having a monogamous relationship with her first, then they open up their relationship. Trust is built firs, and a history together, before such alternative things are considered, in most cases (just as in swinging). I still want to point out that a number of men and women discover that they are poly after being in a monogamous relationship, then desiring to be in an open relationship. Two poly women that I have dated have never considered themselves a swinger, although one has been the sought after unicorn in a FFM threesome with a married couple. It is possible that I have a scewed view, but it seems that woman have an easier time finding partners that will consider an open relationship.