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I & W · 08-05-2008, 08:33 PM

Well now! Your situation describes almost exactly what my wife I went through about 5 years ago. The only thing different, is the part about traveling and spending the night. Also, please don't think or feel strange about yourself because of your turn-ons regarding seeing your wife in action. You are not alone (present writer included).

Now back to your situation......my wife hooked up with an old boyfriend/lover through IM chat. I knew about him, and she did share all that was going on in chat. He too did not know that we were married. We were relatively new to swinging at the time, and she wanted to try being with someone with whom she was familiar than a complete stranger to get her feet wet in the swinging world. So she did. The downside to the entire episode was alluded to in an earlier answer. That was that the guy (a player) wanted more. He wanted to re-kindle their past relationship, and see each other on a regular or semi-regular basis. To both of us, that meant that he wanted her to be his girlfriend again. Not good since we were married. So then she was left to come clean about being married. To that end, and as someone said, honesty is the best policy from the beginning. If your wife's ex-boyfriend cannot enjoy this "gift" that you two are giving on the up and up, then I say that it's not worth it. It may be exciting for you and your wife the first time, but you'd be building upon a lie if it turns into more than a one night stand.

In our case, we (she) came clean with the guy after the one time, and he ran for the hills. They still keep in touch with each other from time to time, but no more. After a time, he did try to "hit" her again, but we've stuck to swinging only with swingers.

My opinion and advice.......keep friends (old or new) out of this part of you lives. There's too much fertile ground for outting, rumors, and innuendos from this type of arrangement. I remember reading a story on this board awhile ago where a "friend" who had the pleasure of a guy's wife, got drunk at a straight party, and announced to all their straight friends that he had fucked his friend's wife. Ouch!

08-05-2008, 08:33 PM	#5 (permalink)
I & W Registered Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 5 Location: San Diego Status: Couple	Re: letting the wife fly solo? Well now! Your situation describes almost exactly what my wife I went through about 5 years ago. The only thing different, is the part about traveling and spending the night. Also, please don't think or feel strange about yourself because of your turn-ons regarding seeing your wife in action. You are not alone (present writer included). Now back to your situation......my wife hooked up with an old boyfriend/lover through IM chat. I knew about him, and she did share all that was going on in chat. He too did not know that we were married. We were relatively new to swinging at the time, and she wanted to try being with someone with whom she was familiar than a complete stranger to get her feet wet in the swinging world. So she did. The downside to the entire episode was alluded to in an earlier answer. That was that the guy (a player) wanted more. He wanted to re-kindle their past relationship, and see each other on a regular or semi-regular basis. To both of us, that meant that he wanted her to be his girlfriend again. Not good since we were married. So then she was left to come clean about being married. To that end, and as someone said, honesty is the best policy from the beginning. If your wife's ex-boyfriend cannot enjoy this "gift" that you two are giving on the up and up, then I say that it's not worth it. It may be exciting for you and your wife the first time, but you'd be building upon a lie if it turns into more than a one night stand. In our case, we (she) came clean with the guy after the one time, and he ran for the hills. They still keep in touch with each other from time to time, but no more. After a time, he did try to "hit" her again, but we've stuck to swinging only with swingers. My opinion and advice.......keep friends (old or new) out of this part of you lives. There's too much fertile ground for outting, rumors, and innuendos from this type of arrangement. I remember reading a story on this board awhile ago where a "friend" who had the pleasure of a guy's wife, got drunk at a straight party, and announced to all their straight friends that he had fucked his friend's wife. Ouch!