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willyoats · 07-30-2008, 02:57 PM

We had a different experience than most, i.e., separate rooms the very first time. We had talked enough about swinging so that we knew we wanted to do it.

Being separated from each other and in the company of very experienced but sensitive partners was the best thing that could have happened. I was not distracted by wanting to watch her, which I knew I certainly woudl want to do if we were in the same room. I could concentrate on my wonderful partner. I actually completely forgot about my wife while I was with this other woman.

On our second experience, we were in the same room, but by then we knew each of us had broken the ice. We were relaxed enough to thoroughly enjoy watching each other with another partner.

After that, we sometimes had separate rooms, sometimes not. Each has its advantages and drawbacks, but to be that flexible made swinging much more enjoyable for us over the years.

07-30-2008, 02:57 PM	#34 (permalink)
willyoats Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 216 Location: lady lake, fl	Re: Emotions - the first time you saw your partner with someone else? We had a different experience than most, i.e., separate rooms the very first time. We had talked enough about swinging so that we knew we wanted to do it. Being separated from each other and in the company of very experienced but sensitive partners was the best thing that could have happened. I was not distracted by wanting to watch her, which I knew I certainly woudl want to do if we were in the same room. I could concentrate on my wonderful partner. I actually completely forgot about my wife while I was with this other woman. On our second experience, we were in the same room, but by then we knew each of us had broken the ice. We were relaxed enough to thoroughly enjoy watching each other with another partner. After that, we sometimes had separate rooms, sometimes not. Each has its advantages and drawbacks, but to be that flexible made swinging much more enjoyable for us over the years.