[JustAskJulie]

I don't know that there's a natural progression that everyone follows. Some jump in head first and full swap the first time they leave the house on a "swinging venture" others of us take our time and go a little slower.

For us, the progress went like this....

Local socials to meet people and allow him to see that swingers were normal.
On-premise club where we played with each other in public.
We continued with the on-premise club setting for quite a while (and still do) most of our progress occured there, going first to some girl/girl play while the guys watched, then on to soft-swapping with other couples. We've had a couple of opportunities to meet with couples one on one where things progressed and are now making more of an effort to actually meet couples (outside of just going to clubs and socials).

I would say that when we started there was a little more leaning towards wanting to get to know people and make friends, as we got more comfortable approaching things together the idea of "making friends first" fell by the wayside to the point that now if we look at a profile that requires "friends first" we will pass it by. We aren't against making friends and like the idea of it, but we aren't likely to meet people we aren't interested in having sex with, so that tells you where our priority lies. Neither of us have any desire to play seperately.


Now, you can compare that to the progress in my previous relationship when I started swinging.... talk about it, a couple of threesomes with individual halves of another couple we knew.... met another couple to play with, played on first meet. From there we ended up meeting a local group of swingers that we became "friends" with. Everyone would get together about once a month for a party and most of our swinging occured within that group. Then later a different group of friends. We also still played with others outside of those groups. We also played seperately as well as together.