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Originally posted by TymKeepr
I'm feeling really strange being the instigator. Are there any other couples out there who had or have the female part moving things along??? |
Although my husband was the one that originally instigated the idea through subtle hints, which I wasn't real receptive to, I think that I am the one who suprised him with the "Hey honey, remember how we talked about....".
Without his knowledge I began surfing the web to find out more about swinging. (I didn't even know there was a name for it at the time, but someone locally gave me some info that just sent me searching about swingers). After months of accumulating information and stumbling on this board, I suprised him with the idea that I was open to it when we were making love. He was truly shocked and highly aroused by it at the same time. I don't think he ever expected me to do anything more than fantasize with him. (Which he was content with.)
From there we have been fine tuning what our swinging ideals are and we have made mistakes but have learned greatly by them and they haven't harmed our personal relationship.
Don't feel bad about being the instigator. As Roxy said, it is great that women can feel proud about their sexuality. Many women do not and I was one of the "do not's" due to sexual/society conditioning.
Lori