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If you are open to the idea of a traditional monogamous relationship I think you are best off leaving your options open and not limiting yourself to single men that are in the lifesyle.

while I do understand the concept of not wanting to "hide" a part of yourself I do believe that a person's prior sexual history is best left private no matter what the circumstance.

There really isn't anything to be gained by telling anyone about your sexual history and there is a lot to be lost as you have experienced firsthand. That people have been threatened and turned off by hearing about your past swinging adventures is not an aberation or a fluke. Most vanilla men WILL be threatened and turned off by knowing about your past even though they will initially tell you that they are comfortable with it.

I know we live in an age where people think they need to be open and honest about private affairs but you need to ask yourself if revealing your sexual past to boyfriend is really necessary or not. Is there really any reason whatsoever that HE needs to know what you have done in the sack before he came along. It might make YOU feel slightly better to be open and honest but is it any real benifit to him or your relationship that he knows you used to be a swinger? Chances are a zillion to one that his knowledge of your prior sexual exploits will not be of benifit to him or your relationship with him.