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This thread gets my recomendation for all newbies to read!!!

I see a small division amongst swinging couples. One group started exploring their sexuality about college age and that led them to swinging. The other group explored swinging as an option when the kids became more independent (or perhaps, left home) and that led them to swinging later in life because exploration was a lower priority for a while. Neither group is wrong of course, but they will usually have a different answer for why they swing. The first group wonders why the others took 20 or more years to finally see the light and the second group wonders how the young ones could develop such trust and communication so quickly.

The tricky part is that there's no litmus test to determine if you're REALLY ready. How much courage, confidence and trust do you need to open your sexual exploration to include other people? Do you have control of your fears? Do you read the clues in a social setting? What would it take to negatively impact your relationship? Can you share yourself and your spouse openly with others? Are you willing to offer and accept sexual pleasures with others? Are you prepared to speak up when you first notice you're not comfortable with an activity or situation? Are you excited by adventure?

Singles have only their own souls to search and perhaps their decision is much easier than for couples. We have to respect ourselves and our mates.