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Originally Posted by tribbles

As for touching....hmmm...again, depends on which party and who is there.

Yes, we have been at some where a gentle touch (not sexual-or barely sexual) was the 'asking' in a non-verbal way and not rejecting the touch, was permission. And when we were newbies to those groups, it was very confusing cuz the asking wasn't verbal every time.

And now that we are used to it, we have to remember to use words with other people! For some the words are a mood killer, others need to hear it and respond to be comfy.

If the group is small enough, you might be able to let everyone know you want words spoken before touching. As well as check with the hosts to see what they are used to seeing and what they expect of everyone.

(I know some of you are gonna freak out cuz some of what we have experienced is so close to a free for all without words...and I want you to know, once we got comfy with it....it's FUN )

We've seen about the same thing at some parties and it works nicely when everyone is expecting friendly actions and no one gets unexpectedly pervy.