[iapr]

I haven't read all the replys or discussions so my apologies if I am saying what has alreay been said of if I am missing the current dialog.

I think what you are observing goes deeper than someone putting on or losing a few lbs. I think it is a common female perspective that if a male is losing interest or is being an ass that it is because she has gained wieght or become less physically attractive. However, i really don't think level of physical attractiveness has anything to do with it.

Some people just lose their respect and compassion for each other and it doesn't matter a bit if someone is attractive or not. If a couple is starting to disconnect and lose their mutual respect and compassion it will manifest itself in a variety of desctructive ways even if they are both drop dead gorgeous.

There are people in the lifestyle that are disrespectfull of their own partners and there are people that are looking for extra sex because of something they are lacking at home. There really are people that are looking for replacements and there are people that are trying to stay together "for the children" that are looking to have their sexual and romantic needs met through swinging.

All of them are trouble and all of them will self destruct at some point and they all have the potential to drag others down with them.