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Originally Posted by newlythree  I have certainly learned a great deal throughout this ordeal. Wifey and I must stay in cahoots throughout the entire evening. There could have been a few different things we could have done to keep up with where everyone was mentally. In the future we plan on taking several time outs with each other to check on, talk to each other. As for the play....well....that prolly shouldn't have happened. And we know that. At the same time, I was kind of left with the impression that she could do whatever she wanted to. But apparently that was not the case. It was our first time with another women and I definatley got wrapped up in the moment and allowed myself to get carried away. It was a learning experiene for sure.
The best thing is that the mrs. and I have talked about this extensivley and are very cool and there are no underlying problems between us. And in all seriousness, that is the only thing I am concerned with throughout that ordeal. |
It sounds like you both learned a lot from this first encounter. Unfortunately, anytime you go into anything new there are issues that can arise and if you don't know what to look for you may not see the red flags waving right in front of your eyes. Sometimes we just put the blinders on and keep hoping things will turn a corner. I think your comment that you guys don't get to get out much together probably added a lot to that. You get out rarely so you were doing everything you could in hopes that the night might end well, rather than bad. And sometimes in trying to avoid what we don't want, we get exactly that.
As you said, make sure that in the future you take time outs to talk to each other and make sure you are on the same page. If at any time someone's not comfortable it's best to call it a night and go enjoy each other. Remember, in the end that's what it's all about. It's not about hooking up with someone EVERY time you get out, it's about enjoying each other no matter what happens with those you meet.