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Pepper & Drew · 07-21-2008, 07:38 PM

I agree with VegasLee. A friend and I were talking about meeting people and getting the feeling that they know where the bodies are buried. We've met couples where we were really attracted to her, but he was just plain weird, odd, creepy, whatever. If somebody gives you the heebs, don't try to make it work. Move on.

The other newbie mistake I see here is not speaking up when you're not having a good time. You should have told hubby that you were feeling left out and that he needed to pay more attention to you. He's not a mindreader and sometimes when playing is new, you can get a little carried away. Hell, sometimes when you're not new you can get carried away.

Always go with your gut. If something doesn't feel quite right, there's a reason, and it's not going to improve later on in the night. Then, once you go with your gut, you need to let your husband know...and right away. Next time, don't be afraid to put the brakes on if something's not going well. Tell them you're going to go smoke a cigarette, get another drink, getting some fresh air, or just plain 'ole come out and say I need to talk to my spouse for a minute. It will avoid this type of problem, as well as a myriad of other ones. Trust me!

Pepper

07-21-2008, 07:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
Pepper & Drew Mmmmm...tasty! Join Date: Jun 2004 Posts: 1,035 Location: Hurricane Alley Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:alhedonists	Re: It could have gone better I agree with VegasLee. A friend and I were talking about meeting people and getting the feeling that they know where the bodies are buried. We've met couples where we were really attracted to her, but he was just plain weird, odd, creepy, whatever. If somebody gives you the heebs, don't try to make it work. Move on. The other newbie mistake I see here is not speaking up when you're not having a good time. You should have told hubby that you were feeling left out and that he needed to pay more attention to you. He's not a mindreader and sometimes when playing is new, you can get a little carried away. Hell, sometimes when you're not new you can get carried away. Always go with your gut. If something doesn't feel quite right, there's a reason, and it's not going to improve later on in the night. Then, once you go with your gut, you need to let your husband know...and right away. Next time, don't be afraid to put the brakes on if something's not going well. Tell them you're going to go smoke a cigarette, get another drink, getting some fresh air, or just plain 'ole come out and say I need to talk to my spouse for a minute. It will avoid this type of problem, as well as a myriad of other ones. Trust me! Pepper
	__________________ "Swinging is a lot like riding a Harley, ...for those who understand, no explanation is necessary; for those who don't, no explanation is possible." --Mr. Alura Last edited by Pepper & Drew; 07-21-2008 at 07:41 PM.