Hello everyone!
My wife and I pretty much fit the profile of what I've read to be the typical swinger. We're middle aged, financially comfortable, in a strong committed relationship. Our lives are quite happy, and our relationship is very stable. We're very open and honest with each other, which is how we were able to get on the subject of swinging.
I've always been more amenable to swinging than my wife has been, in part because I've had a little bit of experience in it and she has not. We're both approaching this very openly and honestly. We had a long conversation on swinging yesterday. Lots of great communication, questions, ideas, thoughts, feelings, etc. We may never end up actually swinging to any level, but we're considerably further along the way towards that than we ever have been before. Now, we're curious; wanting more information, doing more reading, and I imagine we'll spend lots more time talking about it. All good things.
We know that some questions just won't be answerable until we actually have a first time experience. How will the experience be felt emotionally and what role will that have in our relationship? Physically? Spiritually? Some things like that you can't answer until you've done it. One question we haven't fully answered yet is of particular importance to my wife. Sex is of course enjoyable, but she doesn't want sex to be trivialized; it is an intimate experience, often more deeply so for women than men. I commented that if we are in a threesome, she and I are still making love, and very intimately. We're just doing so with someone else involved, pleasuring us and them as well.
Some questions we're working on answering. Some are just simple logistical stuff. Some are laying down our own rules, for ourselves. Still others are about our initial desires. We both know, for example, that for our first experience we'd like to have another man in the mix in a threesome, and one who is bi. Other questions I think we've either bridged or mostly bridged. For example, neither of us has a particular problem with jealousy. Our love is our bond, not how tightly we hang on to each other.
We aren't ready yet to 'cross the bridge' so to speak, but we're discussing it and having a good time doing so.
We've been looking at clubs for a first time experience and have found two within a couple of hours drive. It may be a long while until we get to one but perhaps we're on the way.
So that's the long version of 'hi!'
-BB