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N&G · 07-21-2008, 12:37 PM

Your experience certainly was unusual and not what you would expect. I don't know what kind of "rule" you came up with to prevent it from happening again but keep in mind that you can't have a rule for every possible scenario. Go with your instinct. If it sounds like it might be a problem it probably will be. You say that you played with the other female but were left "high and dry". If both of you are Bi then I would expect that she would have taken care of you. Every guy has a fantasy about being with two women but pleasing two women is a different story. I would expect that your husband would spend his time first with the other woman, after all he can have sex with you anytime. He can't just jump back and forth and if he saw that you weren't satisfied then he should have taken care of you afterwards. Unless both you and the other woman are Bi you will probably end up being there mostly for his pleasure. Not knowing how people play at your club I can't say whether it would have been a good idea to find an extra guy for yourself or whether it would have made things more complicated and possibly increase the drama level.

07-21-2008, 12:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
N&G Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 116 Location: Northern New Jersey Status: Couple	Re: It could have gone better Your experience certainly was unusual and not what you would expect. I don't know what kind of "rule" you came up with to prevent it from happening again but keep in mind that you can't have a rule for every possible scenario. Go with your instinct. If it sounds like it might be a problem it probably will be. You say that you played with the other female but were left "high and dry". If both of you are Bi then I would expect that she would have taken care of you. Every guy has a fantasy about being with two women but pleasing two women is a different story. I would expect that your husband would spend his time first with the other woman, after all he can have sex with you anytime. He can't just jump back and forth and if he saw that you weren't satisfied then he should have taken care of you afterwards. Unless both you and the other woman are Bi you will probably end up being there mostly for his pleasure. Not knowing how people play at your club I can't say whether it would have been a good idea to find an extra guy for yourself or whether it would have made things more complicated and possibly increase the drama level.