[SnowwwWhite]

This is not that big of a deal, but I did feel a little uncomfortable so I figured I'd find out what's considered normal behavior.

I've just been to an on-premise club for the first time (yes, I'll relay the story in another thread!) and there was this male who was wandering around without his partner all night. I never saw him with a female so I don't even know he actually had one except that this particular club doesn't allow single males... but it was weird because this guy was ALWAYS by himself... even in the downstairs public area.

And it wasn't just a casual walking around sort of thing. He would stop and leer at people while they were playing... he actually came up to me and my partner while we were "occupied" and kept asking in a really loud voice "Are you having fun? Are you having fun?" This may not sound like much, but it made me feel pretty uncomfortable. I didn't feel like I was in the presence of swingers enjoying the view, I felt like I was on display in a zoo. This guy's "energy" seemed so out of place... everyone else was laid back, relaxed, sensual, and having fun... and here's this mouth-breather wandering around with his tongue hanging out and talking to people while they're playing.

And he was also doing the same thing later in the private area upstairs... while we were playing with another couple in one of the rooms and this guy showed up and started basically doing a play-by-play! Ick!! His voice was annoying, out of place, and interrupting the flow. I was starting to feel turned off!

This was clearly a couples club. EVERYONE was coupled up, not hardly any single females, either.

I guess I was just wondering two things:

1) This was the only guy all night I saw repeatedly alone. What do couples think about men wandering around without their female? Regardless of whether they're "nice" looking or "creepy" looking. Is that smiled on or frowned upon?

My personal take is that I wouldn't be interested in playing with someone without their other half. (Even if a guy just wanted to ask me to dance I'd really prefer if he would come up to me with his partner to flirt!) This guy wandering and approaching alone gave me the impression that he got in with a ticket, or that he just wanted to get a show or get laid without any effort. I would think that if you're a legitimate swinger you'd have your partner with you and you'd want to present yourself as a package deal, especially in a primarily couples' club.

2) What would an experienced swinger do if this happened? Ignore the guy or mention it to the owner? (Is it possible he's a friend of the owner and slipped in that way?) Just curious if anyone else has experienced this and how did they handle it?

Trust me, this guy was not some innocent newbie in awe. He had "uncool energy" and creep written all over him. I really did feel uncomfortable. He may have come in with a partner, but he definitely gave off a single guy vibe. (It makes me think of how people have complained in the forums about single men at the swinger's resorts who come around the pool to watch with their mouths hanging open. Now I GET it!)