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Originally Posted by tsarlington  Our first question has to do with our personal experience. A lot of people seem a bit put off by the fact that we have only been with each other sexually. |
Some couples like to avoid noobies because they believe there is an increased potential for drama or jealousy issues to arise. Find a couple that likes both of you and will respect your boundaries and proceed at a pace you're comfortable with. Communication is key for positive first time experiences, so don't hold back and talk about everything!
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Originally Posted by tsarlington Our question is, Does everyone eventually find the courage on their own or does it take a little push? Everyone has been very cool and non pushy, but is it ok if one side is a little pushy? Should we wait till the wife can make the first move or maybe look for a couple that is willing to nudge us a little? |
You will find that your confidence increases as you go. You might be nervous the first time, but the second will be much easier. Never be too pushy, and don't let anyone talk you into anything you don't want to do - either of you. Learn to say No, and don't worry about hurting anybody's feelings when you do.
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Originally Posted by tsarlington The third questions is that everyone recommends baby steps, but what is a baby step? |
A baby step is is going just far enough to where you don't feel uncomfortable with the situation at hand. If you don't have a good feeling about what is happening or is about to happen, then you've taken too big of a step, and should probably slow down and communicate everything you're feeling with your partner.
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