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Chicup · 07-16-2008, 09:56 AM

Just to be clear, I don't compare lies to family/friends on the same level as lies to ones spouse. If I did, I wouldn't be a swinger.

That being said, this isn't about details of ones sexual life, its about hiding who we are, who we know, and what we do. If this wasn't the issue than there would be no worry about being 'outed'.

A corollary of this is that so many of us can't share our happiness, etc we find in swinging with our old vanilla friends and family. I remember the first time we played, my wife said the worst part was doing something so amazing and not being able to tell anyone about it. Its having a life changing event and needing to pretend nothing is changed.

Whats amusing to me is most people who know us think we have a VERY boring social life. My favorite line came from a conversation some female acquaintances of mine were having where they were doing a 'what TV show would be your life' and one of them said if my life were a TV show it would be canceled as it would be too boring to watch. I agreed and had a bit of a laugh inside.

07-16-2008, 09:56 AM	#20 (permalink)
Chicup Not a potential *** Join Date: Nov 2001 Posts: 2,348 Location: Under the bed Status: Tired	Re: All these secrets.... Just to be clear, I don't compare lies to family/friends on the same level as lies to ones spouse. If I did, I wouldn't be a swinger. That being said, this isn't about details of ones sexual life, its about hiding who we are, who we know, and what we do. If this wasn't the issue than there would be no worry about being 'outed'. A corollary of this is that so many of us can't share our happiness, etc we find in swinging with our old vanilla friends and family. I remember the first time we played, my wife said the worst part was doing something so amazing and not being able to tell anyone about it. Its having a life changing event and needing to pretend nothing is changed. Whats amusing to me is most people who know us think we have a VERY boring social life. My favorite line came from a conversation some female acquaintances of mine were having where they were doing a 'what TV show would be your life' and one of them said if my life were a TV show it would be canceled as it would be too boring to watch. I agreed and had a bit of a laugh inside.