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Originally Posted by 2inVT  The other thing with us is that we're not so much into "swapping" as we are into sharing. We prefer to play interactively, all four of us (or three of us, or five... however many) on the same bed, where we can all touch and enjoy our spouses as well as the other people. (The women are usually bi or at least bi-friendly, and the men do not cross gender lines, though there may be incidental contact. Their preference.)
If we go out on the town with another couple, each "set" of us may intermingle, but there's never any blurred lines about who is married to whom. I'm just as apt to flirt with the other wife as I am with the other husband LOL. |
Fantastic way to describe your situation. We are absolutely the same; while we may do full-swap we prefer to be sharing where all 4 of us are involved and having fun. Neither of us is into the idea of just swapping, that situation where we're all on the same bed and doing whatever we feel like in the moment (with the guys not crossing that gender line, love that phrase lol) is very exciting. Absolutely why we started swinging and it's what turns us on about the whole thing.
I will say that we don't have a problem with email, txt, IM conversations between any of the 4 of us. In fact that is something that I really enjoy, it lets me build up a certain level of intimacy with both people in the other couple. So far this has worked for us, but we don't have a lot of experience with this yet. It is an aspect of it that I do enjoy and Katrina feels she needs to be comfortable with the other couple. Perhaps a remnant of our newbieness though since most of the more experienced couples here seem to shy away from it.
One thing that we do ensure is that all our communication is totally open. If I'm ever talking to either member of another couple I tell Katrina all about the conversation and she does the same. Complete honesty there is what makes it ok for me, if there was secret communication going on that would be a big sign that we need to take a step back from swinging in general and that couple in particular.