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Originally Posted by ktimephoenix  That is the point i am making... Omission isn't lying. if you were to get a babysitter because you were going to see a movie, would you be expected to give a blow by blow recollection of the entire film? if you were getting a sitter for a wedding, would it be assumed that you would recite the vows? why is it a problem to tell the family member/babysitter that "your going to a party with some friends" and leave it at that?
i must be missing something, but even my parents (over 60) are still making new friends, and they aren't swingers... didn't know that there was a cutoff age for friendship.
as for the friend that knows your life story... quite frankly, if i were trusting someone with my life story, with that intimate a detail, i would trust them enough to tell them that i swing. in fact, i have told/admitted to my lifelong friends just that. |
Give it time, and you may see what I mean.
You are missing something, experience. People expect reasonable answers when you try to explain to your parents why you need over night babysitting, just out of curiosity if nothing else.
Successful middle aged couples with young children and full time jobs don't go out till 3AM on Saturday night under most circumstances. When I was 20 they wouldn't bat an eye at it, now its just simply not what adults do on a regular basis.
Let me give you a hypothetical discussion.
Mother: So where did you go so late Saturday?
Me: To some friends place.
Mother: Oh who?
Me: Fred and Willma's
Mother: Are they from work?
Me: Old friends of (my wife) from college (who we really met at a strip club meet and greet)
Mother: Oh what did you do?
Me: Oh had dinner and watched some movies. (pornos, but not a lie)
Mother: Oh what did you see?
Me: (insert lie here).