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Originally Posted by WeMayTryIt  I believe I may have been the one to make the reference post about cross-couple contact being limited to the bedroom, etc. To clarify, we've been in situations where we've swapped partners (all four of us together) for a night out on the town. Went to dinner, played some darts, drinks, etc. before heading back to the bedroom. It was all just a bit weird for us, being a "couple" with another partner throughout the night. Now we tend to keep our swapping strictly to active play times, and it's worked out well. Does that make sense? |
I can definately understand where you are coming from there. That whole idea would be very weird to me. At that point it becomes one on one dating, which isn't what we are in this for... we're all about 2 couples going on a date together (so to speak), where it's all 4 of us, but in that case I'm really just on a double date with my husband and another couple.
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Originally Posted by SnowwwWhite Great advice. What this tells me is that I need to make sure that the other couple is really in it for the right reasons, has a very high maturity level, and has an airtight relationship... that's the safest scenario for letting things turn into friendship. |
I think that's a lot of it. I think you also have to understand that there are degrees of friendship. There are people we hang out with, and then there are people we feel comfortable enough with and close enough to that we can enjoy hanging out with them in any situation, including with their or our families. The latter is very rare indeed. Those situations tend to lend themselves to being very comfortable to the point that if something sexual happens, great, if not that's cool too. No one is pushing for anything more than just friendship with the possibility that we can all get wild and crazy in bed. I've had a few couples that I have developed this type of friendship with over the years, in each case we met as open swingers, although not necessarily with the intention of swinging with each other. If that makes sense.
I was just looking for something else and ran across this thread that I thought was appropriate for this current thread as well:
Am I really seeing this or am I getting cynical?