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Originally Posted by SnowwwWhite  See, that's what I'm looking for. I wish it could just still be "about the sex."
If my partner and I are going to do this I want to make sure it's just about the fantasies, the intensity it will bring to OUR relationship, and the connection and communication built between US. I don't want it to be about building long-term emotional relationships that put us in jeopardy or add potential for drama.
Ultimately that's why I'm curious how veteran swingers try to prevent emotional attachments... and what steps do they take to get a handle on things if it happens. |
I'm not a veteran, by any means. But Mr. Sweet have made quite a few friends through swinging, and haven't had any problems with "inappropriate emotional attachments". For one thing, we approach potential partners with sex in mind--do we find them attractive, is there chemistry between us, do their sexual preferences coincide with ours, etc.? Because we tend to gravitate toward friendly and likable people, it's not unusual for us to end up becoming friends with most of our playmates.
That said, we're a package deal (same room play), which is clearly stated in our profile. That doesn't leave room for any clandestine activity or romantic feelings to develop.
If you and your man want it to be "just about the sex," then by all means it can be. You can simply adjust your profile and your approach to reflect that preference.
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