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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie  I also have to agree with the above comment that a couple who NEVER fights isn't in that great of shape. Most counselors will agree with that as well, it tends to be a sign of poor communication. |
Couldn't agree more. When we first started talking about swinging, we had a LOT of deeply emotional discussions. You could even call them fights. For the first time, we were REALLY communicating from the heart, holding nothing back and being completely transparent. Rather than closing up and not dealing with things (the standard modus operandi for many years), we kept talking, and we always came out the other end closer than we were before. When you completely open yourself up to someone and talk about all your fantasies, desires and fears, it can cause a lot of friction. You'll find out where your relationship truly stands by doing so.