[socolais]

In so very many threads, we discuss our rules and boundaries. I get the impression that yall discuss activities with your potential playmate somewhat as a "filter" in the decision to play with them or not. It's generally implied that this discussion should occur before everyone gets naked.

I don't foresee declining any offers to play solely on the basis of some activity I "need" to occur in every swinging encounter. Of course, I like some activities a little bit more than others. Sex without touching would be quite a challenge, so there have to be some comon denominator activities typical playtimes share (let's pretend to agree that "same room sex" is not exactly "swinging").

Sure, a few boundaries come up in the discussion - don't tickle me, leave my ears alone, and you need to wear a condom for penetration. I'll say, "Don't leave generally visible marks. Now tell me what you want me to do to you...." If I have decided that I would rather not play with her (for any reason I may choose) she most likely knows before she tells me she doesn't like to be tickled.

When I go to a party, I want to have fun - sexual fun. Let's talk about activities we think we could have fun sharing until we choose to stop. If you prefer to not kiss me, we can work around that if you'll suggest an activity you would prefer.

So, I guess if you have rules against talking sexy and erotic massage, I would likely not want to play with you...