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Originally Posted by two42lovers  Can you define "inappropriate emotional attachment"? |
I took that phrase straight out of the other thread, but to me personally an inappropriate emotional attachment would be if a woman (single or from another couple) develops a crush on my partner and doesn't contain it... intentionally goes out of her way to subtly seduce him into wanting to see her more often, trying to get him to favor her, or initiating email or phone contact with him. Just basically doing little subversive things to build up his attachment to her. (Hey, we're women and we have a lot of damn power and we know it. Some of us use it for good, others for evil.)
Inappropriate emotional attachment is anything that has the potential to compromise the bond and connection between me and my partner. It doesn't even have to be a swinging relationship, either. It could be a vanilla person of the opposite sex trying to build an emotional connection to someone who is already in a relationship with someone else.
I guess in my opinion, unless you've both decided to engage in polyamory and you only play with polyamory couples, any emotional connection is a big risk. But again, I am a newbie and haven't experienced those things in a swinging situation yet so I realize I may feel differently later... and I need more perspective, but I'm pretty sure I will NOT want another woman trying to seduce my partner into wanting to be with her outside of our contact as a foursome.