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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie  First off, I have to commend Mr Van for stepping up and getting things started. Someone has to take charge!
For the kissing thing, I totally feel you MrsVan, that sucks. I think that knowing that is such an important part I would have wanted that to begin before you headed to the bedrooms just to make sure it was there. I think most often you can tell if there is sexual chemistry through a kiss before you take it any further, and being able to end it there would save a lot of hassle later.
As far as dealing with things where they stand now, I think you just have to "bite the bullet" and tell them. Get it over with or it will fester and bug you till you do. |
So if you don't feel the chemistry when the kissing is happening what do you say? I guess I'm just too shy/new to this to speak up once any sort of intimacy has started, especially if all 4 people are hitting it off nicely. I would rather put up with an evening of less than spectacular sex than be the "party pooper".
This is an issue that I have a lot of trouble with, and it has even given me reason to think that maybe I'm not cut out for this lifestyle.
How do you find the courage to put on the brakes once the train has started rolling down the tracks?