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Originally Posted by Jareth  you have a basic human right to not feel inferior to anybody. Rest assured that a fear of rejection is rooted in self-esteem. |
I have no problem agreeing with this statement, however knowledge of the fact does not give me mastery of it. I have allways found that you should test the waters before jumping in. If she likes me and I like her then we can progress to the next level. However if she likes me but does not like my choice of words, it will spoil my chances. That failure on my part to "close the deal" will, in effect ruin my mood and possibly my future dealings with the oppisite sex, nervouse performance is not good no matter what causes it.
I think most men will agree that our main hesitation problem is caused by our second guessing ourselve due to past situations. If on the otherhand the sitaution does warrent the green light, go for it, visualize you desires and ask for what you want.