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Originally Posted by BiloxiCouple  So you are new at swinging and think you are a newbie? All of us have been that before.
First the good news -
You are here and trying to figure this out. That's a good start.
You have questions.
You are scared/apprehensive.
You don't know what to do.
How do I bring it up to my significant other?
All these are questions that are asked every day here.
Now the not so bad news -
You are going to have to meet people and let them into an important part of your life at some level. I think that will be the hardest thing for alot of newbies. Just meeting and talking to people. Once past that it may get easier for you.
This I believe is the biggest effort you are going to have to make.
So what do you think about this? |
Sorry to quote the WHOLE original post BUT, these are the exact question I have gotten in the past.. and for the past 9 years since I started a local area group for where we used to live..
There is one area though on the list that we have no way of offering council on.. How to tell your
Significant
Other ( or
SO) , your desires.. How they will react or what to do with the answer if its not the ONE they wanted..
We can offer all sorts of advise on everything, but, until they have broached that subject..
So anyway, there is one thing that
EVERY newbie needs to do.. and if they are reading this,
PLEASE PAY ATTENTION..
Discuss what you are
into/
looking for/
willing to do/
try ... And when you feel you are both on the same page.. and you are really ready to go look for a playmate or two..
DO IT TOGETHER, do NOT leave it up to one or the other to find contact and set things in motion WITHOUT the other.. There are enough
SURPRISES that can happen when you are getting started.. you do not need another to be.. " Oh I forgot to tell you.."
Oh and BTW.. Nerves are COMPLETELY NORMAL.. to quote one of my favorite movies..
" You conquer that fear, and buddy, hang on, you are in for the ride of your life"