[Chicup]

Its normal for people who are able to eat better to gain a bit too much weight once the chronic problem is removed from their lives. Your wife didn't do to badly, one woman I know gained 125lbs, so it could be a lot worse.

But really how YOU feel about her doesn't matter, its how she feels about herself. Even being sick she must have liked how she looked prior to gaining the weight. You might think shes perfect but 150 at 5'6” can be considered a bit on the chunky side and all the love you give her wont' convince her otherwise. The good news is she doesn't really have far to go and she sounds motivated.

I think swinging can be an double edged sword in this though.

Yes swinging can help with a womans self esteem, being desired by men lets them know they 'still got it'. The problem is that rejection comes with it too, you find that couple you really like and they say 'no thanks'. It might be something completely unrelated to looks, but your wife may well blame her own looks for it.

Ideally its best to really be happy with yourself and then think about swinging. This is'nt an ideal world so I'm not saying it can't help but just make sure it doesn't swing it the other way.