[jjtrindc]

Let us say, first and foremost, that guy was a pig! But we were a little taken aback that you didn't stop him. I would have tackled the guy had I found him doing bareback penetration with my wife - or even a friend for that matter. One thing about swinging is that you can be "diplomatic" but never shy about telling your potential partners what your ground rules are. If they don't like what your boundaries are then what's the point of swinging with them? You wouldn't be friends with a vanilla couple if they didn't respect you right??? We don't believe in the three strikes rule. Heck, we barely believe in the one strike rule. You even begin to do something we didn't agree on and we get dressed, say sorry, and move on. "Heat of the moment" arguments are crap when it comes to our safety, security and sanity. Never never never hesitate to state up front what it is your boundaries are and then stick to them, even if it means an uncomfortable confrontation.

As for the club owners. Don't walk...run and report this couple. It's your responsibility to fellow club goers.

As for STD's, we agree. Get tested. Twice. Even if you only do "soft swap" you are at risk of infecting others. That's a basic scientific fact. We're not going to go into all the details, but would encourage you to speak with a physician who can give it to you straight and has the degree to back it up.

Sorry for the bad experience. Just remember this lifestlye is only increasing in popularity because of the number of people who are having so much fun!