[Chicup]

Non-Swingers - Secrets from spouse.
Swingers - Secrets from family, friends, work, church, etc.

We just trade one set of secrets for another unless its one of the rare truly 'out' couples.

I think secrets from your spouse is worse but I do wish I could tell my inlaws, 'hey could you watch the kids tonight, yea its one of those nights we won't be back until after 3 so we will pick them up in the morning.'