[KattnDawg]

I need to clarify a few things. The divorce was about her need to fall in love, we married as the best of friends after dating for three years. We spent 11 and 1/2 years with no major problems, that I saw. After this time I noticed a change, and asked if there was someone else. She told me she had met a man a the gym and that they had connected when he said "Hi", but he already had a mistress. She then began fantasizing about a man she had a short fling with before we met. After we talked about these fantasies she brought up swinging and I agreed to try it, to help our marriage. Yeah right, I was turned on by the idea of seeing her with other men and getting to have sex with other women. But it never happened, although it became a big part of our fantasy sex. Although she claimed to want to make our marriage work she continued to be attracted to other men and finally asked for a divorce after 1 and 1/2 years and stepping out on me, once. None of this was caused by our rare discussions of swinging.
I am only continuing to look into swinging because I find it fascinating and erotic. I do not want to make the same mistake so I am trying another take. I enjoy pleasuring a woman, I get pleasure from their pleasure, I can be rough or gentle without being cruel. Oh hell I don't know what to do so I am looking at all the avenues out there for a divorced white male in his 40's.