rdy46227

I can see how this psychology would work. You're right; you're in the center between them. Neither will "surrender" you to the other, so some of their games are "bad-ass macho" stuff used by guys to establish/maintain the pecking order.

The current balance is something like "we really haven't decided for real who can take who, but we don't want to have a final confrontation, so we will continue the posturing to each remind the other that ourself would be the real winner".

Many men will keep a situation in this state for a long time because it's not in their interest to have it resolved. In your case, they may be afraid it will break the triad, perhaps leaving neither of them with you. Assuming that they have become good friends, this can actually be a way of reinforcing their connection to each other.

Much may come from their personalities. Their behavior could match adventuresome nonconventionalists who avoid traditional female patterns. It's been said that the female is capable of being the most ruthless of the species...

A "sibling rivalry" component may also exist; they would unite forces against anyone outside the family, appearing as solid allies to outsiders.

Of course, communication, etc.... yada yada yada.

I'd want to learn their amount of attraction, affection and commitment to each other. In other words, are you all a "V" (where both legs know each other) or a delta (all bonds equal)?