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Originally Posted by jjtrindc  While I can't relate directly, I've seen one piece of advice over and over again -- swinging can enhance an already strong bond, but it can't fix issues in your relationship. If your significant other and you are having a less the stellar sex life, then you need to talk with her about it, figure out why that is, and then fix it. Those conversations can be awkward and painful but ultimately if you have a good relationship then totally worth it. Who knows, she may want to get counseling, either by herself or as a couple. Sometimes it just helps to talk to a neutral third party. Getting into the lifestyle can be an emotional rollercoaster and unless you have ultimate trust and respect for each other you'll only find yourself worse off than before. If you are simply in a rut, swinging may be an option. But make sure that is the issue...and then talk talk talk before jumping into things. Good luck. |
We agree with the above. The couples counseling might be a very good idea before you consider bringing up the lifestyle stuff. There might be some issues with her that you are not aware of. Make sure that the relationship is solid before you delve into the lifestyle. You might be surprised at what might be revealed, but you owe it to yourself and her to find out.