The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Sex life is dwindling; could swinging liven things up?

jjtrindc · 07-11-2008, 01:19 PM

While I can't relate directly, I've seen one piece of advice over and over again -- swinging can enhance an already strong bond, but it can't fix issues in your relationship. If your significant other and you are having a less the stellar sex life, then you need to talk with her about it, figure out why that is, and then fix it. Those conversations can be awkward and painful but ultimately if you have a good relationship then totally worth it. Who knows, she may want to get counseling, either by herself or as a couple. Sometimes it just helps to talk to a neutral third party. Getting into the lifestyle can be an emotional rollercoaster and unless you have ultimate trust and respect for each other you'll only find yourself worse off than before. If you are simply in a rut, swinging may be an option. But make sure that is the issue...and then talk talk talk before jumping into things. Good luck.

07-11-2008, 01:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
jjtrindc Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 182 Location: Washington DC/NoVA Status: Couple SLS Name:jjtrindc	Re: Maybe in the wrong spot but asking advice... While I can't relate directly, I've seen one piece of advice over and over again -- swinging can enhance an already strong bond, but it can't fix issues in your relationship. If your significant other and you are having a less the stellar sex life, then you need to talk with her about it, figure out why that is, and then fix it. Those conversations can be awkward and painful but ultimately if you have a good relationship then totally worth it. Who knows, she may want to get counseling, either by herself or as a couple. Sometimes it just helps to talk to a neutral third party. Getting into the lifestyle can be an emotional rollercoaster and unless you have ultimate trust and respect for each other you'll only find yourself worse off than before. If you are simply in a rut, swinging may be an option. But make sure that is the issue...and then talk talk talk before jumping into things. Good luck.