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willyoats · 07-11-2008, 06:59 AM

The instant, almost overwhelming, attraction is pretty rare with us (and I suspect with most othere swngers, also). Usually there has to be a getting-to-know-you period. It has happened only twice for me and twice for my wife out of dozens of encounters. But when one of us had it, the other went along. In only one of the four cases did both of us have a terrific time. In the other three it was OK, but that was partly because we knew the other one of us was really turned on to their new partner.

This is not quite like a charity fuck because there was no real reluctance on the other's part. Each of us was responding, with love, to spouse's needs first and putting our own wishes second.

My advice: go for it when you have a really strong attraction. Make sure that your SO knows how you feel. Then, he/she is likely to have a good time too just because you are so turned on.

07-11-2008, 06:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
willyoats Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 212 Location: lady lake, fl	Re: Instant connection - Few and far between The instant, almost overwhelming, attraction is pretty rare with us (and I suspect with most othere swngers, also). Usually there has to be a getting-to-know-you period. It has happened only twice for me and twice for my wife out of dozens of encounters. But when one of us had it, the other went along. In only one of the four cases did both of us have a terrific time. In the other three it was OK, but that was partly because we knew the other one of us was really turned on to their new partner. This is not quite like a charity fuck because there was no real reluctance on the other's part. Each of us was responding, with love, to spouse's needs first and putting our own wishes second. My advice: go for it when you have a really strong attraction. Make sure that your SO knows how you feel. Then, he/she is likely to have a good time too just because you are so turned on.