The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Playing with a couple who doesn't use protection

SnowwwWhite · 07-10-2008, 09:52 AM

Maybe it's just because I'm a newbie and totally scared of STDs, but at this point in time I would prefer and will actively seek out people who only use condoms with their partners. So yes, to answer your question I think it's totally reasonable to only play with people who are just as safe as you are. Obviously you can't know for sure if they're being honest about the risks they take, but you do what you can.

But here's why I don't think being condom-only is an obstacle... I'm not interested in "quantity" in the lifestyle and would be happy with a very low number that's "quality." I guess if you're looking to ratchet up the numbers or play every weekend... or expect to be in the lifestyle for "lots of sex," then having a condom-only rule would probably make things difficult. But considering my purpose is to heighten the sexual experience of me and my partner and share experiences that will create a greater bond, I don't feel a need to have a lot of partners. Just a handful of great experiences.

The way I see it, there have to be people out there who probably feel like I do and want to play it safe and selective. I'd much rather have a year where I only meet a few couples (and otherwise just enjoy meeting and mingling at clubs when I can't find what I'm looking for) than to go to clubs every weekend expecting to play with whoever catches my eye.

I just know for myself, I will feel differently about people who are cautious about protection vs. people who are willing to play bareback. Knowing someone has lots of casual sex without condoms will be a turn-off for me. I'll feel a lot more comfortable and attracted to people whose practices I understand and respect.

But there's more than one school of thought and there's nothing wrong with either preference. To each their own.

07-10-2008, 09:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
SnowwwWhite Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Posts: 102 Location: Home Status: Female	Re: Playing with a couple who doesn't use protection Maybe it's just because I'm a newbie and totally scared of STDs, but at this point in time I would prefer and will actively seek out people who only use condoms with their partners. So yes, to answer your question I think it's totally reasonable to only play with people who are just as safe as you are. Obviously you can't know for sure if they're being honest about the risks they take, but you do what you can. But here's why I don't think being condom-only is an obstacle... I'm not interested in "quantity" in the lifestyle and would be happy with a very low number that's "quality." I guess if you're looking to ratchet up the numbers or play every weekend... or expect to be in the lifestyle for "lots of sex," then having a condom-only rule would probably make things difficult. But considering my purpose is to heighten the sexual experience of me and my partner and share experiences that will create a greater bond, I don't feel a need to have a lot of partners. Just a handful of great experiences. The way I see it, there have to be people out there who probably feel like I do and want to play it safe and selective. I'd much rather have a year where I only meet a few couples (and otherwise just enjoy meeting and mingling at clubs when I can't find what I'm looking for) than to go to clubs every weekend expecting to play with whoever catches my eye. I just know for myself, I will feel differently about people who are cautious about protection vs. people who are willing to play bareback. Knowing someone has lots of casual sex without condoms will be a turn-off for me. I'll feel a lot more comfortable and attracted to people whose practices I understand and respect. But there's more than one school of thought and there's nothing wrong with either preference. To each their own.