[Dynamar]

The question you seem to be asking, damayor, is "Why do some people act like assholes?" And I wish I had another answer besides "Because they're assholes." And as such, they don't deserve any of your time or consideration.

I agree wholeheartedly with tribbles. Being nice costs nothing, and there are tactful ways of letting someone know you're not interested in playing with them. Doesn't mean you can't be sociable and nice.