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mra · 07-09-2008, 08:32 AM

I would like to know whether any other board members have any similar experiences to the one set out below, and their thoughts.

We are a FMF situation, which developed over a period of a couple of years. I was with my wife and also hooked up with a GF. It was more than a purely physical thing, and I was drawn to both women equally. I should add that both are intelligent attractive women. Over a period of time first my GF and shortly afterwards my wife found out about the other woman, and things got strained, as I was unable to give up either of the two women. Over a tough couple of months both women also found themselves unable to give me up.

I was then asked by both to arrange a meeting between them which I arranged under the understanding that there would be no unpleasantness. The women met in a public place and I was told (by both) that it was a coldly polite meet. Some weeks after this they ran into each other at a professional/social event, and interacted leading to greatly reduced hostile feelings. A few days after this they met again at a professional/social event, interacted a lot with each other, leading to them goings for drinks, after which they ended up having sex with each other (a side of theirs I was not aware of, and was to learn of later).

Over a period of some months our relationship has evolved to the point of us moving in together, with the girls being with me, as well as each other. The thing is though that sometimes it appears to me that the girls are competing with each other, so if one is a little rough or dominating with the other, then within a short period of time other will do something to even the score. It is almost like they are keeping tabs. I am not sure whether this is my male ego seeing things that are not there, seeing as they are two attractive women with me in the “middle”, or there really is an element of roughness in their relationship with each other, or the women still see each other as competition?

07-09-2008, 08:32 AM	#1 (permalink)
mra Registered Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 3 Location: A land far far away Status: M	FMF Situation Question I would like to know whether any other board members have any similar experiences to the one set out below, and their thoughts. We are a FMF situation, which developed over a period of a couple of years. I was with my wife and also hooked up with a GF. It was more than a purely physical thing, and I was drawn to both women equally. I should add that both are intelligent attractive women. Over a period of time first my GF and shortly afterwards my wife found out about the other woman, and things got strained, as I was unable to give up either of the two women. Over a tough couple of months both women also found themselves unable to give me up. I was then asked by both to arrange a meeting between them which I arranged under the understanding that there would be no unpleasantness. The women met in a public place and I was told (by both) that it was a coldly polite meet. Some weeks after this they ran into each other at a professional/social event, and interacted leading to greatly reduced hostile feelings. A few days after this they met again at a professional/social event, interacted a lot with each other, leading to them goings for drinks, after which they ended up having sex with each other (a side of theirs I was not aware of, and was to learn of later). Over a period of some months our relationship has evolved to the point of us moving in together, with the girls being with me, as well as each other. The thing is though that sometimes it appears to me that the girls are competing with each other, so if one is a little rough or dominating with the other, then within a short period of time other will do something to even the score. It is almost like they are keeping tabs. I am not sure whether this is my male ego seeing things that are not there, seeing as they are two attractive women with me in the “middle”, or there really is an element of roughness in their relationship with each other, or the women still see each other as competition?