[good times]

Nope, we don't make plans to play with anyone ahead of time, and in fact, have said to people that made an assumption that we were going to play with them, just because we were there and they were, almost exactly what she said to you. It was not that we weren't interested in playing with them, it is just that we make no plans when attending a party ahead of time as a general rule, and are usually at the party to meet new folks, not hook up with people we already know.

Sometimes, we will discuss playing with someone at a party before hand and then go ahead and play with them at the party. But we rarely do this, we actually have a name for this, we call it "taking sand to the beach". Fact is, we go to clubs and parties to meet new people, if we want to hook up with folks who are already playmates, why go to a party to do it?