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Originally Posted by slevin ...This may be all she meant (as advice) rather than an indication of her not wanting to play with you that night. I know that we learned this the hard way  |
I tend to feel this way, too. She may not have said it as gently as she'd like, it may have just slipped out of her mouth rather bluntly, but I make those kind of faux pas often enough that I can see how it happened.
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Originally Posted by anonymous_nc  Do you preplan who potential playmates could be when going to a party or club...or is it in fact wrong to plan who you might play with....isn't it the same as if you are invited over to a cples house, knowing you might play. |
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hope we get to play with a couple at a private party, but we never let them know it's our "plan" to because we can't expect that.
Private parties are for meeting people and you never know how the night will go until you get there. Even when you know a great couple you have played with before and will likely do so again, the night might not be meant for playing with them.
Sometimes that couple is in a different mood, or not open for playing, or are interested in meeting new people, or have their mark on another couple they've played with before. It's best to go into a party keeping things unplanned.
Parties aren't the same as a private meet with one couple in their home. That is totally different to me because there you only have each other, there aren't any other people to choose from. You either play with each other or you don't play at all. When going to a couple's home you usually discuss ahead of time (or you should) what you all have in mind and it would be wise to let them know beforehand if you're interested in playing.
This couple sounds like they are still very interested in you guys. Keep the door open and in the future, take her advice, don't plan on things set in stone when attending a house party.
Keep your options open and remain flexible.
LM