[sweet_tna]

Swinging absolutely makes sense--for Mr. Sweet and me. Does it make sense for anyone else? Well, on a thoroughly academic point, perhaps. But humans being the fascinatingly complicated creatures that we are, we don't always make sense. Everyone is different, and what works for Mr. Sweet and me may not work for anyone else.

That said, should you and your girlfriend swing? That's a question only you and she can answer. And it sounds like her answer is, "not now." The reason you see that bit in the FAQ about not pushing your partner is simple. No one likes to feel pressured to do anything. Let's say your girlfriend wanted to take ballroom dancing lessons.

Scenario 1: While you might actually be interested, it's not the kind of thing you want your friends to know about. And you might even think you've got two left feet, so the whole idea makes you nervous. So you tell her you'll think about it, and hope you'll feel more confident about it someday, and/or have more information.

Scenario 2: Are you kidding? No way are you interested in prancing around on the floor, no matter how badly your girlfriend wants to do it. But you don't want to hurt her or have her nag you about it, so you tell her you'll think about it--hoping desperately she'll forget about it/give up.

If the first scenario is the case, then you should share this site with your girlfriend. Let her know that this is just something you want to explore, and that you aren't bored with her and won't ever be (and I so hope this is true for both your sakes). And COMMUNICATE. Let her know how you feel, mushy love stuff and all. If she's willing, or at least interested, then keep talking.

In the second, there's really not much you can do but let it go.

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