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anonymous_nc · 07-08-2008, 03:42 PM

Ok I would like to get others opinion /advice on this:

Recently hubby and I were invited to a house party. The house party invite was sent using "e-vite" where people can rsvp and you can see who is planning on attending.

So we sign up and see that one of our favorite couples is planning on coming. Hubby and I mention that we hope to end up "playing" with them at the party, if they do come, as we usually always do.

So party comes and this couple is at the party. Everyone is having a good time and there is a lot of flirtation going on between us and this couple.

During the night the wife of the cple and myself go to the bathroom. She is telling me how hot my husband is and we are just kinda b.sing, and I mention that as soon as my husband found out that they were coming, we hoped to end the night playing with them.

The wife did a total 360 and said in a very serious voice "You really shouldn't plan who you want to play with before a party"....

Ok so how do u take that?...I took it as she was telling me they were not planning on playing with us...So after that I take my hubby aside and tell him so that he is aware as well.

Well 10 minutes later the wife of the other cple is all over my husband, which really throws us off...Now I know that we should probably have just been direct with them...but we werent so we may now never know why the mixed signals...

Anyways...here is my actual question....Do you preplan who potential playmates could be when going to a party or club...or is it in fact wrong to plan who you might play with....isn't it the same as if you are invited over to a cples house, knowing you might play.

We have talked to several cples about this (excluding any names of course) and most seem to do the same..some even mention having "fall back cples", but wanted to get other opinion on what they do.

07-08-2008, 03:42 PM	#1 (permalink)
anonymous_nc Registered Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 3 Location: NC Status: couple	To preplan potential playmate or not? Ok I would like to get others opinion /advice on this: Recently hubby and I were invited to a house party. The house party invite was sent using "e-vite" where people can rsvp and you can see who is planning on attending. So we sign up and see that one of our favorite couples is planning on coming. Hubby and I mention that we hope to end up "playing" with them at the party, if they do come, as we usually always do. So party comes and this couple is at the party. Everyone is having a good time and there is a lot of flirtation going on between us and this couple. During the night the wife of the cple and myself go to the bathroom. She is telling me how hot my husband is and we are just kinda b.sing, and I mention that as soon as my husband found out that they were coming, we hoped to end the night playing with them. The wife did a total 360 and said in a very serious voice "You really shouldn't plan who you want to play with before a party".... Ok so how do u take that?...I took it as she was telling me they were not planning on playing with us...So after that I take my hubby aside and tell him so that he is aware as well. Well 10 minutes later the wife of the other cple is all over my husband, which really throws us off...Now I know that we should probably have just been direct with them...but we werent so we may now never know why the mixed signals... Anyways...here is my actual question....Do you preplan who potential playmates could be when going to a party or club...or is it in fact wrong to plan who you might play with....isn't it the same as if you are invited over to a cples house, knowing you might play. We have talked to several cples about this (excluding any names of course) and most seem to do the same..some even mention having "fall back cples", but wanted to get other opinion on what they do.