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Originally Posted by notaswingeryet  Nice plan, simple, easy to remember.
However you have to be absolutely sure of their response before diving in like that. If the other party responds with "I like you too but not in that way" you simply cover up your embarassment and move on. An "Eww I didn't mean to lead you on Eww" will result in a mounth of embarassment related performance issues. Most men dread that last response, and therefore allow our fear of rejection to cause us to dwell at the sticking point. Hitting it at the high point of the conversation could alleviate some of that fear, or it could push us to act reclessly, giddy with good emotions. There's a fine line there, I'm not sure I learned how to walk it. |
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Listen close... you have a basic human right to not feel inferior to anybody. Rest assured that a fear of rejection is rooted in self-esteem. I recommend that from this moment on you start seeing everyone for what they are: people FIRST and everything else second- that super hot babe by the bar is a person first and beautiful second; you are a person first and out for a good time second. That puts you on a level playing field, end of story.
Stating your intent blatantly only seems risky because you are assuming that the other couple isn't having a good time. In reality, I am sure you are plenty interesting and fun; why would you deny anybody the experience of you?
I believe that two of the most beautiful words in the English language are "I want". Define what you want and state it proudly. Most people- especially the ones who spend countless nights putting up with the same old smalltalk bullshit- are hardwired to be attracted to someone who knows what they want. You can't fight nature.
-Jareth
P.S. Right now I want sex- I'm going to go pound my wife into the mattress...