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Originally Posted by olycouple  So, I've been reading around on this site, adding my two cents very rarely because it always seems what I would say has already been said (gosh you guys are good!). But, now I have a true "wondering". I usually only see the women on SLS and other "friend finder" sites listed as bi, bi-curious, bi-comfortable, etc. I've only seen a few men. In the world of swinging, does the bi-sexuality rest on the female? Is that the connection between most couples? I ask this in all earnestness (and ignorance). I am what I would call bi-curious. Recently, however, I heard an interview on NPR with Micheal Stipes of R.E.M. He brought up an interesting thought when asked about his sexual orientation. He said he saw sexuality as a continuum and that all of us moved around on that continuum...the point being that none of us are really "straight" "bi" or "gay/lesbian". It was an interesting, gentle, intellectual attack on labeling human sexuality. I find that hot. I find the idea of sexuality to be fluid, but so many men seem absolutely closed to the idea of any cross-over activity between males. Am I missing something? Or is there a taboo against this in the swinging world? Just wondering. Maybe I should make this a poll.
Mrs. Oly |
Yes, there is a taboo against male bisexuality in swinging just like in general society. The topic of male bisexuality starts arguments here and gets more "warnings" issued by moderators than virtually any other topic. Even amongst "open-minded" swingers it seems that female bisexuality is cool, even almost expected, but male bisexuality is gross and many still won't contact a couple where the husband is listed as "bisexual" or "bi-curious". We know some couples in which the male is bisexual and they all say that they list him as "straight" on their profile and then play it by ear if another couple they meet has a bisexual male in it. Bisexual play is not a prerequisite for play with them and he will in no way make an unwanted advance toward another man. In fact in our experience, bisexual men seem to be more respectful of straight men's boundaries than many bisexual women are with straight women's boundaries.
That said, I personally am not bisexual, but I have to admit that on occasion there has been a certain guy that in a certain situation that if all the stars and planets lined-up correctly I could possibly have dabbled in it. So IF I had to label myself it would be "simply sexual". Mrs. WS labels herself as such since she is bi, but her strike zone with women is much narrower than it is with men.
Mr. WS