 Re: The morning after syndome
Your introduction says:
we are still looking to get back into this lifestyle and found this site throught sls same log in there to we are married for 10 years now and last active in the lifestyle 5 years ago thought we would check it out again
From reading that I gather that you both previously did your swinging separately - as you stated in the OP - and now you're giving swinging together a try but that's not working.
I wonder if it's the switch from never seeing each other playing to now seeing it happen that is causing the problem. Your wife isn't comfortable with the thought of seeing you with a woman and she therefore can't understand how you can enjoy watching her with another man.
Maybe you two are only meant to play separately in order for swinging to feel comfortable.
Until your wife can mentally handle the idea of watching and being watched, I don't think continuing the way you have will end in feeling any better the morning after. If through discussion she realizes what's bothering her about swinging together, she may discover that she has an unrealistic worry or concern. But until then, she's probably not going to get comfy with this new approach to swinging.
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