The Swingers Board - View Single Post - Emotional & logistical problems of an open marriage(was:MFM then FMF for starters?)

LokisFemaleHalf · 07-07-2008, 01:09 AM

OK, here is Loki's other half with her story!

I will try to consolidate so as not to make this too painful to read, because I am very interested in opinions from people who know!

I am 43, met now 22 year old on a sexual forum. I am flirtatious, he was not having it; we ended up talking politics thru email. We found common interests, one thing led to another, we started engaging in cyber-sex.

This person is highly intelligent, super-shy, and inexperienced. He has had sex a whopping total of 8 times with one girl in his young life. He wants to bang a friend he can trust and who can show him how to do it. I am the teacher, he is the student. The deal is, that my husband is totally turned on by the fantasy of watching me get off with another man, and I feel the same way about him with another woman. No problems there. We both have the need for not so much an emotional connection with the prospective partners as a "I like you, I know you a little, let's get it on" type scenario.

Bottom line: I talk to this young man on almost a daily basis. In chat, and on the phone, he nails me, and I am 43. This is his imagination working. In reality, he is nervous as hell about his skills, therefore he wants to be one on one with me to be comfortable, then pictures he and my husband giving me a good going over. I am all for it, mainly because it is exciting, new, and my husband talks about me doing this person all the time. I realize this is outside the lifestyle, but we are not even there yet. I want to do this. So, hit us with your best advice. I don't see a young man who is 200+ miles away as being a threat. I will say, that the fact that he "wishes more women his age think like me" is a red flag.

I am so glad this forum is here to guide us!

Love,
The other half!

07-07-2008, 01:09 AM	#16 (permalink)
LokisFemaleHalf Active Member Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 23 Location: NC Status: Couple	Re: Newbies: MFM, then FMF for starters? OK, here is Loki's other half with her story! I will try to consolidate so as not to make this too painful to read, because I am very interested in opinions from people who know! I am 43, met now 22 year old on a sexual forum. I am flirtatious, he was not having it; we ended up talking politics thru email. We found common interests, one thing led to another, we started engaging in cyber-sex. This person is highly intelligent, super-shy, and inexperienced. He has had sex a whopping total of 8 times with one girl in his young life. He wants to bang a friend he can trust and who can show him how to do it. I am the teacher, he is the student. The deal is, that my husband is totally turned on by the fantasy of watching me get off with another man, and I feel the same way about him with another woman. No problems there. We both have the need for not so much an emotional connection with the prospective partners as a "I like you, I know you a little, let's get it on" type scenario. Bottom line: I talk to this young man on almost a daily basis. In chat, and on the phone, he nails me, and I am 43. This is his imagination working. In reality, he is nervous as hell about his skills, therefore he wants to be one on one with me to be comfortable, then pictures he and my husband giving me a good going over. I am all for it, mainly because it is exciting, new, and my husband talks about me doing this person all the time. I realize this is outside the lifestyle, but we are not even there yet. I want to do this. So, hit us with your best advice. I don't see a young man who is 200+ miles away as being a threat. I will say, that the fact that he "wishes more women his age think like me" is a red flag. I am so glad this forum is here to guide us! Love, The other half!