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Originally Posted by Nitati 
We *are* looking for new meaningful, passionate experiences to share with each other.
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Those are found where they are and they happen when they happen. That is more about what is happening with the two of you than about others. This is a worthy and legitimate goal but it is about you and not about others. If you have your shit together there is no reason it can't happen in even the simplest of circumstances. If you don't have your own shit together it will not happen no matter how perfect the other people are or how perfect the situation is.
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Originally Posted by Nitati
While we realize we can't always control it, we'd just really prefer to not have a "bad" first experience with this.
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As long as you keep the above goal in mind and as long as you use your head and are reasonably responsible and follow your gut instincts and communicate with each other, you should not have a "bad" experience.
"bad" experiences happen when people get drunk or stupid, get careless or irresponsible or get selfish and do things without regard to the feelings or wishes of others.
You two have probably been somewhat torturing yourselves looking for the perfect match and situation. At some point you are going to have to accept that you have done all it is that you can do and then you are just going to have to take a leap of faith knowing that you have done your best. If you are inteligent, responsible, respectfull and compassionate people and you have given it your all in good faith things will work out for the best.