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Originally Posted by magiriano  HE IS KNOWN FOR BEING A PIG, YET ALLOWED IN WHILE ALL THE OTHER CLUBS IN TOWN BANNED HIS ASS! We should've been warned about his behaviour right after we WERE ASKED TO AND WE PAID our membership DUES. |
Perhaps the owners were not aware of this couples previous behaviour. Perhaps no one has gone to the owners with their story first hand. I know you said that others have told you this couple is notorious for that, but if I was the owner of a club and all I ever heard was rumors with no one being willing to tell me first hand I would not ban someone or warn others of them in the absence of actual verified events. I don't know the situation here specifically, but it sounds to me that either the clubs owners don't care, or they didn't know/didn't have enough 'proof' to do something about them. I would definitely go talk to the owners of the club and then you'll know for sure what the situation was and whether you need to avoid that club altogether or not. I imagine it will also feel good to know that you've done what you can do about stopping the situation from happening again as well.
If I owned the club then if I felt the need to warn people about a couples behaviour they just wouldn't be allowed in the door.
Also, I don't put my faith in the clubs owners to be the arbiter of my safety. You did the right things by telling him to put the condom on, watching him put it on and stopping it when you saw he no longer had one on. Sucks that you ran into someone like this, but I think with the knowledge that there is that potential you can be more aware of the interaction to ensure that it doesn't happen again. That isn't something trying to tell you that you should continue with doing full-swap; you should do whatever you're comfortable and happy with. It's more a comment on how I'd look at the situation if we continued to want to do full-swap, but didn't want to fall into another bad situation.
For us, we've chosen to take more time to get comfortable with people we swap with rather than doing it the same night we meet people at the club. Not to say one is better than the other (since many folks meet at the club and have a lot of success with that), it's just what has worked best for us and has made us the most comfortable with the situation. We've still have a few bad experiences, but fortunately nothing as serious as someone not wearing a condom.