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Originally Posted by magiriano  We decided to keep going to the clubs because we like the adult scene, however have a complete STD test done and after hearing from others that is a common thing with man trying to go bareback in the lifestyle, we both think we wanna keep it soft - oral/same room sex, no penetration.
That might change, but not soon.
BTW, another couple we've been chatting with had a similar experience a couple of weeks back, after play she found the unrapped condom on the bedside table.
That's a shame. |
We have not found that men are always trying to go bareback. There may be a subsection of guys doing that, but everyone we've seen in the clubs has been using condoms. Are we just still too new to have seen enough and are in for a surprise? The more experienced swingers we've talked to (that we weren't talking to about hooking up with) have all said they use condoms exclusively unless they have a long standing relationship with a couple.
Also, I find it hard to believe that a woman won't realize there is not a condom being used until afterwards. My wife can tell right away that I'm wearing a condom and can totally tell the difference between sex with a condom and without. Completely different feeling. Also, if it is important to both of you to wear condoms then you should make sure that you're watching the guy put it on before you go back to what you're doing.
All of that isn't to say I am putting blame on either of you for this at all. This was all on the shoulders of the guy, you told him to wear a condom and he didn't. Completely his fault. All I am saying is that if you go back to doing full-swap you can take measures to ensure that your condom only rule is being adhered to.