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magiriano · 07-06-2008, 12:55 PM

Anyway, we've been lurking and posting here for awhile now but now we're in a spot where we could use some advice.
Been an active member on a few boards to know that by the end of this discussion there'll bee too many advices to follow.But mayber we don't need advice but just to vent?
Anyway, we've been flirting with the idea of swinging for years, and a couple of months ago we made the first step: we went to a swinger's club.
My wife seemed a bit skeptical about the whole thing, but once in she seemed to like the atmosphere, the erotism th omnipresent sexuality and lack of inhibitions.
We ended up having great sex with eachother in the playroom and had a couple of weeks of awesome sex after.
As we were walking out the club she mentioned that she still doesn't know why would people have sex with others. I had to be a smart ass and tell her that they probably started out just like us.
Anyway, we went to the club a couple more times and just watched others while being watched playing with eachother.
Then one night at the club, our table became somehow popular, we had a great time, met some new people, tried to make a new couple confortable by telling them about our first time there and how nobody talked to us.
Anyway, we went to the playroom, decided to play with eachother as usual, but since the swing was taken(we wanted to try that) we ended up in the big pooltable size bed.
Shortly after some other couples came and before we knew it the whole room was now an orgy.
While I was having sex with my wife, I felt that she was very turned on, so I motioned to a guy that was available that it was ok to have oral with her.
She went for it and that was so arousing that shortly after I felt the need to see her having sex with another man, so I went and got a hanfull of condoms, placed them on the bed next to the guy and told him to use one and have sex with my wife. I watched as he put on the condom and entered her, then I noticed a lady next to us and she said it's ok for us to play.
At one point however, I tried to kiss her but she wouldn't so that turned me off and decided to go back to watching my wife with another man.
Then I realised he wasn't wearing a condom, I asked him why isn't he wearing one and told him he needs to stop .
I didn't wanna make a scene since it was our first time with other people and I was affraid my wife will freak out thinking I had a jealosy fit.
I know I have a bad temper and didn't wanna scare her. So we just left the club.
Soon after, we found out that the couple we slept with are known as predators, that they don't play nice and are banned from any other club in town.
All our online friends wished they were there to warn us. My wife is still breastfeeding and wasn't on any birth control then. We don't believe in abortion and the two of us have unprotected sex with eachother all the time.We do have young children and wanna be able to raise them and we need our health for that.
We decided to keep playing and we went to a new club that's a bit more selective of it's members. We don't wanna ever go back to the first club.
While it's too late to undo what's done, confronting the guy over the bareback issue doesn't make sense to me. It's my word against his, he'll simply deny it. Some friends told us that the owners of the club wanna talk to us about this issue.
Anybody and their dog knows that these two are bad news, and that they prey on newbies, since the experienced won't have anything to do with them. They are banned from all other clubs yet the owners of this club didn't banned them and didn't care to warn us about it.
Other members didn't warn us about them either.
We've been thru hell the past 3 weeks waiting for a negative pregnancy test, and it is negative.
But we have cold sweats with any itch that got or not to do with the crotch area.

It sucks tho, it was our first experience and totally not what we were looking for.
We changed clubs and our friends are asking us to go back to the first one but we just don't want to. We think it was the owners duty to keep us safe and they didn't do that when they allowed people with a bad rep, that were banned from other clubs to be members and didn't at least warn us.
We feel they sold us out for an entrance fee.

07-06-2008, 12:55 PM	#1 (permalink)
magiriano Here to Stay Join Date: May 2007 Posts: 43 Location: Calgary AB Canada Status: couple SLS Name:magiriano	First time experience was a bad one. Anyway, we've been lurking and posting here for awhile now but now we're in a spot where we could use some advice. Been an active member on a few boards to know that by the end of this discussion there'll bee too many advices to follow.But mayber we don't need advice but just to vent? Anyway, we've been flirting with the idea of swinging for years, and a couple of months ago we made the first step: we went to a swinger's club. My wife seemed a bit skeptical about the whole thing, but once in she seemed to like the atmosphere, the erotism th omnipresent sexuality and lack of inhibitions. We ended up having great sex with eachother in the playroom and had a couple of weeks of awesome sex after. As we were walking out the club she mentioned that she still doesn't know why would people have sex with others. I had to be a smart ass and tell her that they probably started out just like us. Anyway, we went to the club a couple more times and just watched others while being watched playing with eachother. Then one night at the club, our table became somehow popular, we had a great time, met some new people, tried to make a new couple confortable by telling them about our first time there and how nobody talked to us. Anyway, we went to the playroom, decided to play with eachother as usual, but since the swing was taken(we wanted to try that) we ended up in the big pooltable size bed. Shortly after some other couples came and before we knew it the whole room was now an orgy. While I was having sex with my wife, I felt that she was very turned on, so I motioned to a guy that was available that it was ok to have oral with her. She went for it and that was so arousing that shortly after I felt the need to see her having sex with another man, so I went and got a hanfull of condoms, placed them on the bed next to the guy and told him to use one and have sex with my wife. I watched as he put on the condom and entered her, then I noticed a lady next to us and she said it's ok for us to play. At one point however, I tried to kiss her but she wouldn't so that turned me off and decided to go back to watching my wife with another man. Then I realised he wasn't wearing a condom, I asked him why isn't he wearing one and told him he needs to stop . I didn't wanna make a scene since it was our first time with other people and I was affraid my wife will freak out thinking I had a jealosy fit. I know I have a bad temper and didn't wanna scare her. So we just left the club. Soon after, we found out that the couple we slept with are known as predators, that they don't play nice and are banned from any other club in town. All our online friends wished they were there to warn us. My wife is still breastfeeding and wasn't on any birth control then. We don't believe in abortion and the two of us have unprotected sex with eachother all the time.We do have young children and wanna be able to raise them and we need our health for that. We decided to keep playing and we went to a new club that's a bit more selective of it's members. We don't wanna ever go back to the first club. While it's too late to undo what's done, confronting the guy over the bareback issue doesn't make sense to me. It's my word against his, he'll simply deny it. Some friends told us that the owners of the club wanna talk to us about this issue. Anybody and their dog knows that these two are bad news, and that they prey on newbies, since the experienced won't have anything to do with them. They are banned from all other clubs yet the owners of this club didn't banned them and didn't care to warn us about it. Other members didn't warn us about them either. We've been thru hell the past 3 weeks waiting for a negative pregnancy test, and it is negative. But we have cold sweats with any itch that got or not to do with the crotch area. It sucks tho, it was our first experience and totally not what we were looking for. We changed clubs and our friends are asking us to go back to the first one but we just don't want to. We think it was the owners duty to keep us safe and they didn't do that when they allowed people with a bad rep, that were banned from other clubs to be members and didn't at least warn us. We feel they sold us out for an entrance fee.